The reason I celebrate Gay Pride parade


I had a friend once that asked me why gays needed to have a day in which they flaunted being gay to the rest of the population. She thought that it sent the wrong message and if the LGBT community wanted to gain allies they needed to refrain from this celebration or at the very least tone down the celebration and restrict the skimpy male and female outfits worn by some on the parades.


I at the time did not have an answer for her because my son had just come out to us and told us he was gay, it took a lot of reading and learning about the LGBT community.  Now I have the answer for her and anyone else that may think like that.


My husband and I are there for other children whose parents have turned their backs on them, we are there so they can see that their being gay is celebrated by others and not condemned, that being LGBT is normal, that they are normal and fit in with the rest of society, that there are other people that are really “Christian” and accept LGBT people, that other large organizations, and city government officials accept them! that they can be themselves and be happy!


We walked with PFLAG the very first time three years ago, we both marched with our signs that read “Real Christians for same sex marriage” and “What would Jesus do? He would be ok with same sex marriage NO on 8” and “we love both our children gay and straight”. The love we felt coming from the crowd was just overwhelming, we walked the entire way on this cloud and I had tears streaming down my face, and yes some of the floats had scantily clad young people but it was no different that if they were at the beach, I’ve seen worse on television, the beach, Mardi Gras, etc. There were a lot of children there in the parade and as spectators, this is a family affair and I am never going to miss one of these as long as we need to let other young people know we are here for them, until the day comes when the LGBT community is accepted and not targeted for hate crimes and by the extreme fanatical religious groups.  I do hope that the day will come when we don’t need to hold a “Gay Pride parade” but I don’t see that in my lifetime unfortunately so we try to work on one heart and mind at a time.


I am co President of PFLAG SD now and I truly believe in our mission statement:

PFLAG promotes the health and well being of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender persons and their families and friends through Support, to cope with an adverse society; Education, to enlighten an ill informed public; and Advocacy, to end discrimination and to secure equal civil rights.  PFLAG provides opportunity for dialogue about sexual orientation and acts to create a society that is healthy and respectful of human diversity.


I invite anyone to attend and walk with PFLAG in the parade and see for yourselves it is a wonderfully uplifting experience.  A couple of years ago I went to a La Mesa city council because councilwoman Sterling had withdrawn her support for the Pride parade and had heard and made some comments against the Pride parade event and I invited her to attend and see for herself.  I did take lots of pictures and can share them with anyone that wants to see them.

I would like to invite everyone and anyone to march with us! the more the merrier, start making your signs and we will keep you informed about time and place.
Save the date Saturday July 21, 2012 Parade begins at 11 AM but you need to get to starting area by 10 and parking can be challenging so we recommend carpooling.


Patti Boman